The coarse reality

Gossiping is part of our life and on random days the group of girlfriends would gather in a place and will likely to be indulged into some 'interesting' conversations:-

'Hm..oh..so and so broke up with his gf'
'Really?? Weren't they getting married?'
'Nah.. she wasn't his type anyway'
'How so?'
'Em..lets just say she is a little coarse.'
'Coarse? What do you mean coarse?'

Pretty much hard to accept why 'she' was classified as 'coarse'?

'You know... somehow ribald...'low class'
'WHAT?'...

I was pondering hard about that term..

'I'm coarse!'

It was an awkward conversation in determining what coarse is all about.

Mind you, I was told that a person with class does not talk about it. This made me even more disturbed about its furtiveness.

Most developing/developed country prides itself on it's diverse yet harmonious society, we still can't seem to run away from this classification (well intended). There is the old rich, the famous Lees, the Tans, The Lims, (I'm putting random surnames). This classification is purely monetary and should in no way determine the classiness of an individual. Am I clear? Ethically, true.. Monetary does not determine class but in actual fact, it does. Similarly, this 'blended culture' does run in our veins. Those who is financially more stable seem to run a higher chance of being upper class compared to the others as luxury determines all!

However, does education take its position? I know this girl who never made it to college but has the classiest way of putting you at east. A secondary school educated man who remained silent about his rivals' indiscretions even under extreme pressure. That's classy.

Upbringing? Basic etiquette? Dressing appropriately? The list never ends!

I don't really know how others define classiness but I truly believed that classiness is being yourself and honest really. I don't think a well spoken/dressed/known/mannered person should be bestowed a high class honour for what he/she appears to be.

But having said that, I do know obviously well dressed/mannered/etc individuals with integrity and forthrightness are able to walk the walk and talk the talk which these individuals will need to prove themselves.

Anyway, I know truly that I'm sure the world has a space for those who are categorised in between.

Adieus!